Blog entry by Alan Chapman
Sui generis is a Latin term defined and translated literally as "Of one or its own kind; peculiar" by the 1933 OED (Oxford English Dictionary), and first recorded in the English language in 1787.
More generally (in the 1933 OED) sui generis means "a thing apart, an isolated specimin".
The idea of sui generis applies to each of us, in ways that we are not generally taught, and so we can teach ourselves, and others.
- Each of us is completely unique, perfect, constantly changing, mind, body and soul.
- Each of us is many different personalities (or moods, conditions, 'ego-states') - unconsciously and unconsciously - all at the same time.
- Each of us experiences changes of mood, constantly.
- This is not surprising given that each human brain comprises infinite (actually countless trillions of) synaptic connections; connected with our own body and miraculous soul; and then also with the external environment of other people, nature, cosmos, time and space, etc.
- Our changes of mood, especially if prolonged and troublesome, are interpreted by modern medicine and pharmaceutical treatments to be mental illnesses.
- Prolonged and troublesome changes of mood are common for most of us at different times of life, for example in grief and loss and stressful change or trauma.
- Most of us at some stage(s) of our lives could be diagnosed to be mentally ill.
- Are we though? What actually is 'mental illness'?
- Modern healthcare systems, academic training, institutions and doctors typically use some sort dictionary of mental illnesses to diagnose human moods or conditions, notably for example the USA's DSM-V.
- These systems are very much part of global business, and national and international institutions of governments, education and academia.
- Most people trust authority (for example governments, big business, mainstream media and doctors), because this is how we have been conditioned to think and feel about ourselves and our external environment. Most of us tend not to think of ourselves as 'sui generis' and perfect. Most of us tend not to believe that 'common sense' can be more reliable than what banks, big business and mainstream media tell us.
- Follow the money.
- Ask yourself, what are the motives behind what powerful corporations ask us to believe?
- Each of us is doing our best, according to how we understand our inner self and our external life.
- Each of us is conceived, born and raised in varying degrees of trauma. Life is full of traumatic events over which we have very little control.
- We are never taught in conventional education, that while we can do little to control what happens in life, we can control how we react to what happens in life.
- Life unavoidably influences our beliefs to be mostly untrue, about nearly everything, especially our own self-image.
- We are not generally taught that each of us is 'sui generis'.
- We are not generally taught about traumas, and the effects and opportunities of traumas.
- Our traumas remain mostly hidden to us, especially if they were serious traumas when we were younger. Some of us, and perhaps all of us, can begin to understand and process our traumas, so that we can reframe traumas as helpful growth. This tends to require external support and guidance, especially from people who have experienced similar traumas, or from people who are experienced in giving this support. This isn't necessarily complex or expensive professional support. It might easily be a friend or neighbour, and/or an inspirational role-model, and/or a helpful book or other self-teaching. It's different for each of us.
- Our minds protect us from trauma initially by a physical and emotional numbness. This numbness tends to reduce in time, especially if we are gentle to ourselves instead of being hard on ourselves, or believing that we must simply and quickly 'get over it'.
- If we are shown that trauma is a powerful form of personal growth, and a very natural way that we are each evolved and designed to grow emotionally and physically, then we give our mind and body much needed time, space, and the crucial belief to heal and become well.
- Consider again the reinforcing effects of internal and external belief systems. When we say we are healing, the world knows it, and this then becomes the reality.
- Many pharmaceuticals have harmful side-effects, including the suppression of the natural healing powers of our minds and bodies, and natural human support networks. Pharmaceuticals treat symptoms. Our minds and bodies, and good friends and other helpful influences, can change far more powerfully what causes our symptoms.
- Many forms of 'self-medication' and addictive methods of altering how we feel and think, obviously such as alcohol, and less obviously potentially working too hard as a sort of redemption, can be very unhelpful for our natural healing, recovery and human growth.
- Beginning in 2015, I mistakenly believed that part of my own healing was that I should be training for and running endurance marathons. I realise now this was mostly a sort of self-destruction and search for redemption: driven by guilt and self-loathing; becoming an addiction to running and pain; I was punishing myself.
- Also I mistakenly believed that part of my own healing was to take personal responsibility for preventing suicides wherever I could. Unsurprisingly this nearly killed me and opened me to several more traumas. I believed consciously and unconsciously that I no longer deserved to live. I hated who I was, who I'd been, and what I'd become. This became my new belief system and I projected it to others. Early in 2021 confronted the logical conclusion of my own self-destruction
- I am now learning love myself. It's not easy. I have learned that I have been traumatised, and I'm learning that I am sui generis, and so is everyone else.
- I have learned over nearly 60 years of life that I am not who I believed myself to be. Life is peaceful. Love and fearlessness are basically the same thing.
- The placebo effect and nocebo effect are extremely significant in life, so that: If we believe something to be true, then it becomes part of our internal and external realities, which reinforce each other. And so if we believe we are healthy and that how we live is healthy, then this tends to become so; and if we believe we are unwell, and that how we live is unhealthy, then this tends to becomes so. See https://www.businessballs.com/blog/placebo-and-nocebo/