Blog entry by Alan Chapman
Here's how I see life. It's not complete :)
1. Life is not what it seems.
2. Atoms are mostly nothing, except energy.
3. Atoms are very much like the emptiness of outer space, containing stars, separated by light years' of nothing between them.
4. A light-year is the distance light travels in a year.
5. We are made of atoms.
6. Atoms are just energy; mostly empty space containing tiny 'particles' of energy.
7. This supports the idea that what we imagine is 'reality'.
8. Reality certainly exists, because we can touch and see and sense it, although these are thoughts and feelings and perceptions in our heads - ultimately energy.
9. When we are born we are basically loving and trusting and uncorrupted, because our mind has yet to be conditioned by our experiences.
10. Our parents do their best at parenting us, and this is different for each of us.
11. Then school tries to educate us.
12. And from the moment we are born we are being given foods and drinks that begin to create habits and addictions, especially salt, fat, sugar, and then later drugs that have been designed over hundreds of years, notably coffee, tea, tobacco, alcohol and medicines.
13. Lifestyle choices are also conditioned in us, such as whether we engage with nature and exercise, and what sort of work we might do.
14. Crucially also as we grow we must overcome several 'crisis' stages, such as becoming less dependent on our parents, and then finding partners and having and raising our children.
15. Later in life we have other crisis stages, especially of grief when someone close to us dies, and relationship break-ups, career changes, divorce, perhaps injury and serious illness, etc.
16. All of this continues to influence how we feel and think about ourselves.
17. And this greatly influences how we see and behave towards life, and everything, including other people.
18. When we are fearful, angry and upset, or loving, fearless, and trusting, and we behave like this outwardly, this influences people's feelings and thoughts and behaviours towards us. And this reflects back outwardly again, as if we are in a hall of mirrors.
19. In many ways we are all like mirrors, reflecting off each other; individually and collectively.
20. Self-love is not widely discussed or understood. It's not selfishness. It's the opposite of selfishness.
21. Self-love is a way to understand that we can rediscover our natural 'pure-born' self, which is a very different person from the conditioned person we believe ourselves to be.
22. Interesting things begin to happen when we start to love ourselves.
23. We become less worried about doing things that we previously did in order to 'validate' or 'affirm' ourselves as a 'good' human being, and we 'put ourselves first', which generally is not encouraged or explained for us by parents or our education and upbringing.
24. When we start to love ourselves, we begin to learn that for much of our life we have been living according to the way we believe other people want or expect us to be like, when actually we've never asked anyone really deeply, "What do you think of me?"
25. And this opens a door for us to be comfortable and happy, living as we want to live, rather than as we think we should live.
26. By loving ourselves we also show others that we are happy being who we are, instead of showing others that we are not.
27. We also show others that it's okay to be like this - to love ourselves - and these become helpful ripples and reflections, that become miraculously powerful amplifying energies for us all, and everything.
28. Because everything is simply energy, and everything is connected.